Shanty Irish Eldercare Volunteer

Shanty Irish Eldercare Volunteer
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Wednesday, March 24, 2010

HOCKEY TONIGHT

Every time I watch a hockey game I think of my Dad. The last months of his life were spent with me in front of the TV on nights when there was a hockey game. I miss those times. I hope the Sabres play better than they did the night Dad passed.
Ma's recent behavior gives me pause. She is not really interested in much other than TV, bologna sandwiches, cereal and eating ice cream. Ma must think we are back in the Great Depression as she is saving milk from her morning Cheerios in the refrigerator. Well it is certainly better than when she was stuck in the 50's, a lot less delusional rambling. I try not to call these things to her attention as she embarrasses easily when questioned. I don't believe she knows why she does these things. She is still hyper vigilant about locking the door. Last night she checked the locks when I came in and again unlocked the doors assuming she was locking them. This morning she left a note asking me to lock the door when I left, something I do every day without being asked. These notes are becoming more frequent and I wonder what is motivating her concern. Is someone tormenting her when I am not here? Or is it just a natural paranoia that goes with her dementia? I really don't know, but I lean towards delusional paranoia.
Everything is really quite normal (?) at this time. Ma has eaten two pounds of bologna, two half gallons of butter pecan ice cream, left seven bowls of used cereal milk in the refrigerator, and used 7000 sheets of TP in the last 5 days. It is amazing what you get used to as you care for your parents. It is like when your kid's finally make you brain dead as they grow up and you figure that if they aren't killing each other then how bad can it be (?). You reach that place with your elder that if they remain clothed and don't dance the Lambada in the courtyard, things are ok.